Fixing the Collar of his shirt

In marriage, sometimes we may feel we are married to the wrong partner. We feel our partner is the worst thing that happened to us. Did I not see? We will ask ourselves severally especially when our spouse is behaving in inappropriate ways. Ama met Nana in the university and immediately liked each other; they got married soon after leaving the university. Two years into the marriage, Ama realized that she made a mistake in marrying Nana. They could not have one meaningful conversation, their chats were always characterized by quarrels, arguments and squabbles obviously they were not on the same path. It just wasn’t working. Ama needed God in her marriage owing to the fact that she couldn’t do it on her own. It was so overwhelming. All the opportunities Ama wanted from God were not forthcoming. She needed to fix the collar of her husband’s shirt even though it was difficult and it is only through Christ that it could be done. She let everything go so that God could handle it. All her anger and thoughts were poured out in prayer to the Lord, and then she realized she had to change herself instead of trying to change someone. Ama through Christ turned over a new leaf, she became very meek and in spite of her husband’s issues she became very submissive to him. After a while, Ama’s husband was changing too and so positively, she was beginning to live an exemplary life for her husband to emulate. It was beautiful! All of a sudden, the opportunities she wanted way back were all opened. It was a beautiful feeling; she has evolved into Christ’s beautiful bride. Let’s try to love our spouse even if they don’t deserve it, for undeserving as we are God loved us enough to give us His only begotten son to die for our sins. Let’s try to be the change instead of changing others.

“You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye”. Matthew 7:5.